Therapy has come a long way, but for many, it’s still shrouded in mystery and misconception. Why is it, in a world where mental health is finally getting its due attention, that talking about therapy remains challenging?
When I started therapy in high-school in the 1980s, I didn’t tell anyone I was going. It was just not something you talked about. And honestly, I was there because my mother mentally and emotionally abused me causing enough trauma to last a lifetime. That was not something I was prepared to talk about outside my therapist’s office. If you went to therapy, everyone wanted to know why.
I gave up on therapy in college, yet started again around 2003 when I realized my childhood trauma was the monkey on my back that I was still dealing with. I mentioned it to a few friends, but didn’t like people knowing my business. When I finally concluded therapy in 2010, there was definitely less of a stigma, but I’m just a very private person so I never discussed my experience, even if it was the topic of a discussion. Again, less of a stigma, but something I wanted to keep private, like my weight or eating habits. However, as you’ll read below, the stigma is real and the ability to share your experience with therapy should be normalized.
Why Talk About Therapy?
Have you ever felt hesitant to share that you’re seeing a therapist? You’re not alone. Many people fear being judged or misunderstood. Yet, therapy is simply a tool to navigate life’s ups and downs. It’s like going to the gym, but for your mind. When we talk about it openly, we make it easier for others to seek help.
Challenging Misconceptions
There’s a stereotype that therapy is only for those with severe mental illness. In reality, therapy is for anyone looking to improve their mental well-being. It’s a place where you can express thoughts and feelings without judgment. Therapy isn’t a sign of weakness; it’s a testament to your strength and willingness to work on yourself.
Psychotherapist Bonnie Wims shares, “Overcoming the stigma of mental health starts with each of us. It requires listening without judgment and speaking up without shame.”
The Power of Sharing Stories
Every time someone shares their therapy story, it challenges the status quo. Individuals who talk about therapy encourage those sitting on the fence to consider it for themselves. When we hear real-life successes, it demystifies the process.
“You don’t have to struggle in silence,” says Dr. Sarah Kline, a mental health advocate. “When people hear stories of others who’ve walked the same path, it gives hope and courage to seek help.”
The Role of Language in Reducing Stigma
Language can build bridges or walls. Words like “crazy” or “unstable” perpetuate stigma. Instead, adopt words that promote understanding and empathy. By being mindful of our language, we create an environment where mental health discussions become less threatening.
In her practice, Dr. Alice Tran advises, “Educate yourself and others about problematic language. This awareness helps transform how society views mental health.”
Starting the Conversation
So, how do we start talking about therapy without making it awkward? First, acknowledge your feelings. It’s okay to feel vulnerable. Being open about therapy doesn’t mean sharing every detail. You can choose what to disclose. A simple, “I’ve been seeing a therapist to work on personal growth,” can be powerful and inspiring.
Therapist Emily Young recommends, “Begin with those you trust. Build your comfort level, and slowly expand your circle of conversation.”
Encouraging Friends and Family
It’s not just about personal transparency. Encouraging others can be life-changing. Start by listening. Sometimes, a friend just needs a sounding board, not advice. When they express interest in therapy, offer support and share resources. But be honest about any boundaries you may have when it comes to discussing therapy. I would typically answer any questions a person had for me regarding therapy, but I didn’t share a lot about my therapy. And I almost never shared in a group discussion. You can be both private about therapy while also acknowledging there shouldn’t be a stigma around discussing it.
It’s time to bring therapy out of the shadows. By talking openly, we create a ripple effect that encourages understanding, empathy, and acceptance. Every conversation chips away at the stigma, paving the way for a future where mental health care is as routine as physical care. You can make therapy less about stigma and more about self-betterment.
